10 Years Later … Would I Do Anything Differently?
As I write this post I am less than a month away from my tenth wedding anniversary. Looking back I was wondering if there is anything that I would have done differently. Should I have taken my parents up on the offer to elope and get the free vacation? Should we have invited more people, less people?
Besides looking out for the things I mentioned in my other posts like choosing a better photographer, I don’t think I would have changed a thing. Obviously something is working, because we have been married almost ten years and while not all of it has been easy we have gotten here together.
Justin and I now have three beautiful children together that are the center of our world. Maybe that is one thing I might change if given the chance, I would have started having kids a little earlier. It is a good idea to wait a little while to have kids because you get to learn more about each other and enjoy being a couple, but that time span is different for each couple.
Try to remember when you are planning your wedding and you are all stressed out about caterers, invitations, dresses and cake that it will all be a fond memory down the road. Even the small things that go wrong won’t seem so bad when you are reminiscing about them in a few years.
Try and be aware of every moment while you are planning, or at the event itself, because it will go by fast. Don’t let anyone set the pace for you. You and your spouse are what this event is all about so enjoy it.
Now that we have kids our thoughts naturally turn to ’someday’ when it is their turn to get married. I hope we are in the position to help them have whatever kind of wedding they want, although I will try to instill in them the mindset that MORE is not always better. There is no need to spend a ton of money on a wedding or a reception.
Your wedding could be the two of you and your whole families or the two of you and an ordained Elvis impersonator. The point is that in the end it is the commitment to someone you love that matters, everything else is just icing on the three-tiered cake!
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October 16th, 2008 at 6:16 pm
Congrats on the Ten Years! Finding the Right person is what its all about!
October 17th, 2008 at 12:17 am
Thank you for reading my post! Yes the road to the happy ending is sometimes rough, but it is worth the journey! ~ Denise
October 30th, 2008 at 4:36 pm
My wife and i were married in her Father’s rose garden by a Justice of the Peace. There was no music (not even Elvis!), only immediate family and friends (less than 2 dozen guests in total), and yet here we are 22 years later and still going strong.
Roses aside, the real beauty of the ceremony was one simple thing: we were there for each other, and no other. Your wedding, regardless of size or complexity doesn’t matter, only your commitment to each other.
Congrats on your upcoming 10th, may you have many more!
Cheers, Marc
October 31st, 2008 at 11:23 am
Thanx for reading my story Marc. I totally agree. The wedding it self can be lovely, but it is the meaning that matter the most! 22 years! You guys must have done something right…. I wish you many more. Denise
October 31st, 2008 at 12:01 pm
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