Bridezilla, When You’ve Gone Too Far!
I’ve been fielding a lot of questions from brides to be lately and am hearing from them what advice they are getting from others. Quite frankly some of the advice has me wondering what being a bride really means to people.
Specifically, I’m talking about the advice to brides from their peers that says, “It’s your wedding and your day, you can do what you want”.
While that is true for the most part, it is not true when it’s rude or hurts other peoples feelings. For example, their was a bride to be that has a sister she is close too, however the sister lives half way around the world.
This bride was told by her sister that she couldn’t make the wedding, so the bride, only wanting one attendant, asked someone from work to stand up. She said they were friendly at work, but not close. The friend accepted the invitation to stand up to her wedding and was happy to be asked.
Then the bride heard from her sister that she could, after all, attend the wedding. This bride asked if it was OK to ask her work friend to not stand up even though she admitted the work friend would be hurt and offended. She really wanted her sister to stand up.
The advice from everyone else was that it was her day and she could do what she wanted, and if the work friend was a real friend she would understand and step down for the sister.
In my opinion, the bride should have been honest with the work friend when she asked her and should have told her she only planned for one attendant and wanted her to be a proxy for the missing sister.
Since the bride did not think to do that, I say she is stuck with either having two attendants, or not having her sister stand up. Being the bride does not give license to offend, play, or hurt other people. It just really shocked me, that as in this case, the bride would not take responsibility for her choices, but would rather hurt someones feelings to get her way.
Situations like this should not be handled with that ever so popular entitlement mentality when maturity and responsibility should come into play. I know many will disagree with my opinion on this, however you will never convince me otherwise but feel free to share your comments or opinions via the comments box below.
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October 13th, 2008 at 10:55 pm
Thank you for addressing this issue. It’s about time someone did!