Lots of Questions… Not Many Answers!
I still can’t believe we are really engaged! I told Kyle that I make sure to sleep with my ring on so if I wake up and I’m not wearing it, I’ll know I was only dreaming.
My mind is a flurry of all the planning-oriented tasks I should be working on but I don’t have a clue where to start. I haven’t been able to make up my mind on most (or all!) of the important things, so the details just don’t seem important.
If I feel like I’ve made a decision, I second guess myself and change my mind. So, as of yet, no plans have been made. It would be safe to say that I am, indeed, already overwhelmed.
I have some mental images of what I would like our wedding to look like, but I feel like that ‘ideal wedding’ isn’t attainable. Does it ever get easier?
I know we need to start with a budget. Once we get an idea of the total funds available, I guess I’ll be able to get a more realistic picture of what our wedding can be. I’m torn, though, between everything, it seems…
A big wedding or a small wedding? Well, Kyle wants a big wedding, but can we afford it? Casual or formal? Kyle and I are pretty laid back, but I like the look of formal weddings. What colors? This week I like black, cream and some mystery accent color but who knows what I’ll like next week!
Where should we get married? We had originally toyed with the idea of getting married in the town where Kyle’s family lives now, but I’m beginning to get leery of that idea. Who will my brides-maids be? I left most of my friends in College Station, and some even moved out of state…how do I even decide?
I could go on forever. I’m hoping that the next few weeks will yield at least a few checks on my giant planning list. Aside from my wedding-planning flurry, being engaged is great!
Since Kyle and I have been dating for a while now, we’d talked about getting married and spending our lives together. I knew he was going to ask me eventually, but no one (including Kyle) really knew when.
I decided to take the initiative and planned for us to make a trip one Wednesday to College Station to visit the local jeweler I knew I wanted my ring to come from. We spent the entire day there, picking out the perfect diamond and then matching it to the perfect band. We watched the jeweler set the ring and joked that my ring was ‘being born’.
I knew he’d ask me pretty soon after we got the ring, but true to Kyle-form, he waited. He waited for what seemed an eternity. Actually in comparison to how long I waited before we got the ring it really wasn’t that long.
But what was truly torture was that the ring, in its perfect little brown box, sat on the dryer in plain sight for over a month. I couldn’t stand it. I told Kyle to move it, hide it, ANYTHING but keep it there. No, he said, he’d leave it right there. Absolute torture, I swear.
I had developed a habit of picking up the box when we would leave for the weekend to see if he had just taken out the inside box. Nope, still in there, I’d tell myself each weekend. Well last Wednesday Kyle was rushing me so badly to leave that I didn’t have a chance to pick up the box. It wouldn’t have mattered if I had picked it up anyway.
Sneaky boy had hid some fishing weights in there in case I did. That’s love.
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November 30th, 2008 at 11:45 pm
Ha! Fishing weights! I like it!
My sister claims that the easiest way to do it is to first set the budget, then make up a guest list to figure out how many people you’ll be inviting. Then, you’ll be able to figure out, with the number of people you’re inviting, if you have enough in your budget to do something more formal or more casual. Once you figure out what town the wedding will be in and see your options of where to actually have it, price will kind of help you figure out how formal (or not formal) it will be.
December 1st, 2008 at 7:03 pm
Thanks Summer! It’s great to get advice from someone who is going through the same things… Hopefully we’ll start getting some details ironed out!
December 1st, 2008 at 7:19 pm
Hey Lacey… I know your feeling! A helpful resource that got me started is the theknot.com website… register for a free account and you’ll find a lot of free planning tools, tips and ideas!
December 5th, 2008 at 1:45 pm
Hi Lacey,
Your enthusiasm is infectious! Definitely start with how much money you’ll be able to save and what kind of wedding style you would like. You can go to:
http://www.my-wedding-reception-planning.com/average-wedding-budget.html
to see some average figures what other couples are paying for their weddings around the country. It might give you further ideas of what you will be able to afford and what you might want to cut out or keep in your wedding. Hope it helps.
March 13th, 2009 at 3:53 am
Hi Lacey~
I hear your frustrations! This is a crazy time
) I hope you and Kyle are planning for your marriage as much as you are planning for your wedding!
Best of Luck to you guys!
Lots of Love,
Cory B Honickman